Talk:Phillip Strenger/@comment-118.101.255.69-20170814154602/@comment-189.152.98.105-20171110211838

"Wife tries escaping and kidnapping your daughter"

She didn't kidnap her, she went with her on her own volition (and given the tale of her own life, it's not that hard to understand why).

"Tear the home wrecker to shreds, wife untouched, tries to kill you with knife."

Wife fell in love with someone else, happens all the time, it doesn't excuse murder, he could have moved on, but he decided otherwise for whatever reasons you may want; also, I wonder how would you react to someone dismembering theo "love of your life".

"Attempt fresh start with same wife, have another child with her and you both try to fix marriage"

Sorry, but there's no hints at all that both tried to fix things, only he wanted that; It is also quite clear that she didn't want the child at to begin with, so you have to wonder how the baron convinced her of having another one, since he was no saint at all.

"never in history will war trauma ever be compared to home loneliness or later assault and attempted murder."

I agree, entirely different situations, they both had their troubles tailored to their own capacity, just because someone had it worse doesn't mean your situation is not hard on you, as such one cannot compare one with the other without fully taking into consideration the effects it had on their lives at personal level; and even then you'll be biased towards one side or the other based on your own personal experience.

"but circumstances had a big effect on how he turned out, unlike the wife who had much more control since the start of her situation."

And here you are overlooking one side over the other just as the ones you are accusing. Circumstances have a big effect on how WE ALL turn out, is never stated how she fell in love with the other dude or the intentions that he had in the beginning, but I'm pretty sure she didn't intentionally cheat on him the same night that he departed.

He had control when he found about the affair, your past traumas may have a saying in your train of tough but they don't excuse your actions, and yet you're excusing him of acting on emotions but you blame Anna of doing the same.

You compare war trauma to attempted murder, why not compare attempted murder to actual murder? I doubt someone would be calm and serene when a loved one is being killed and dismembered, much less try to rebuild a relationship with the same person that caused that suffering.

Both parties had their problems, both made their choices and both must deal with their own consequences.

In the end, this is a marvelous quest, and unlike many would like it to be (myself included), this story, as many in this world, has no good or bad side, just a set of circumstances, a choice to be made, and consequences to bear.